~:C.C.4.U:~ How to Get Along with People You Dont Like

 

How to Get Along with People You Dont Like (And Make Your Life More Peaceful in the) Here is a simple but powerful and transformative  that is, intense  experience for you, in two steps. For the first step, on computer, paper, or at least in your mind, make a list of the people you don't like who you routinely correspond with or who impact your life. This can include those in your professional and personal world, and those in the public eye, who rub you the wrong way, who make your skin crawl, or who -- if you didnt believe in kindness and compassion or at least in avoiding jail -- youd flat out enjoy punching in the nose. Surely a few people spring right to mind. Create this list of people you dont like, and then consider each person on it in this regard: What is it about this person that is worth emulating? Instead of focusing on their disagreeable qualities and actions, that is, for each person on your list shift your perspective to what their best qualities are  more particularly, to the one, two or more aspects of their character that YOU could learn from and perhaps use more of. Perseverance? Discipline? A happy-go-lucky attitude? Everyone has something worth emulating. Everyone. Though certain people may deserve to be fired, jailed, or impeached, even they have qualities that are worth appreciating and emulating. It is our reactionary egos that are prone to completely trash those who seem to have a negative influence in some way on us. Our egos are primitive; if somebody strokes them, that somebody is good, and if somebody kicks them, that somebody is bad. This lingering reaction creates the notion of  dislike, or hate, which blocks our eyes, mind and heart from focusing on anything but the negative. But by focusing on the negative in anyone  I really dont like that person -- we are doing by far the most damage to ourselves. Honing in on what we dont like in people (or in situations for that matter) wont change them, but it does make our lives considerably less peaceful and sucks away from our productivity and happiness. It becomes a habit that perpetuates the self-damage. Plus it makes us considerably less attractive to others. This is not a call to tolerate being taken advantage of or abused by people we dont like, of course; if changes need to occur to avoid those circumstances then by all means do what is ethical to make those changes. But it IS a call not to let those people  really, your own ego  pull you down into discord and disharmony where you dont deserve to be. The key, then, is to try to focus on what is worth appreciating and emulating in the less-than-your-favorite-people people  even if (especially if) they are your opponent, such as in or on court  versus letting your ego, your emotional reactions, rule. So the first step is to get your practice by making that list of people you dont like and considering each person from that angle. And then the second step is to extend that practice to daily life. The next time you encounter someone who seems to be doing the opposite of their part to make your life fabulous -- in person, on T.V., in your head -- instead of focusing on what makes them such a lousy human being, focus on what it is about this person that is worth emulating. Keep striving to do this until, typically two to three weeks in, it becomes a habit you dont even need to think about. You will be quite surprised at how this shift in your perspective reduces your overall anxiety and enables you to achieve more ... and achieve it happily.

 

 

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